What Is the Teaching for Me in This?

A question I had for four days

In moments like these, when my heart is heavy and my tears feel endless, I find myself asking Spirit: What is the teaching for me in this? Surely there is one.

I asked again and again. But this time, Spirit did not answer me right away. For four days I reached for an answer to settle my being, and the silence felt unbearable. I forgot the stillness I needed to be in—the pause before the whisper, the emptiness before the arrival.

And today, I sat one more time in stillness and asked again: What is the teaching in this for me?

And the answer arrived.

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The Answer Came Softly; it cradled me into Peace

The teaching- is healing does not mean choosing for someone else’s choices. Healing means allowing people to choose—even when I know in my soul that their choice may bring more pain.

It is not my place to determine their readiness.

It is not my responsibility to carry them beyond what they are able to hold.

It is not my role to choose for them which I knew but forgotten.

My teaching is to release the illusion of what must be - and yet I have forgotten their readiness and stayed at the becoming. My teaching is to trust that readiness belongs to them, not me. As I choose to see beyond what is the current state and what their possible is…. I must remember to honor their now capacity.

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Spirit’s Reminder in the Silence

As Spirit spoke, I realized the delay - Not giving me an answer like I’m always so used to was also a teaching. The silence itself was part of the answer. Spirit reminded me of how quickly answers often come to me—and how easily I forget that for many, answers are not heard so swiftly.

Spirit allowed me to feel the other side of silence, so that I would know what it’s like to sit in waiting, aching for clarity that does not arrive. Spirit reminded me to become the anchor of readiness, stillness and Divine Love for others—for the ones who wait and do not hear, who feel forgotten in the silence.

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What Love Really Means as the energy reminded me

Spirit whispered: Be ready with love when they are ready to see.

This is difficult. It is heartbreaking. It requires sitting with the discomfort of watching someone walk paths I would never choose for them.

But the truth is this- I was reminded: Love doesn’t mean removing every obstacle. Love doesn’t mean moving someone from accountability. Love means being steady, being present, and being a mirror of stability they may one day return to.

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The Seed Is Never Wasted

Even if they choose different, the seed of love is planted. The memory of practice, enlightenment, and accountability has been given and it will never be lost.

And so the teaching is this:

• Let them choose when they are not ready.

• Love them freely.

• Be steady and ready when they return.

For the readiness is theirs.

The steadiness is mine.

And the silence is not abandonment—it is part of the teaching. 🙏🏼

As you read this, I invite you to ask yourself: Where in my life am I being called to release others choosing, to let readiness belong to another, and to practice stillness within myself?

Know this—I am holding stillness for you too every moment.  When your moment of readiness arrives, love will meet you there. Until then, this is a reminder for all -let us practice together: to breathe, to wait, to trust, and to remember that the seed is never wasted.

In the Stillness

Much love beyond human understanding

Pauline 🕊️